On not being stubborn


Sometimes it seems very helpful to be stubborn.

When you think that those who are resisting an action of some kind are just doing it out of sheer laziness or lack of interest.

But there are other times when being stubborn can produce an own goal. Here are some examples of this.

  • When you badly want to lie on a bed even though it is not allowed … better to have poor sleep than none at all (?)

  • When you decide to resist all attempts to move grade boundaries even though it appears that an injustice has been done. Anyone who knows anything about negotiating understands that it is not about sticking to one’s principles, but working towards a win/win outcome. Otherwise just don’t even enter the negotiations.
  • When you think that being rejected for a role or a relationship is all down to your own inadequacies. Of course everyone can improve, but not getting the job or partner you want does not mean you are worthless. Just keep persevering and like the tortoise you will get there in the end.

So try and live without stubbornness if you can and replace it with reasoned determination.

Don’t be blinkered, be honest with yourself.

It’s worth a try surely?

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